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Words that moms should not tell to kids

Kids of today’s generation are different. It’s like they are not that easy control. Some people said that it is because most of the kids today are not feeding milk from their moms. Is that true in Perth? There are also those who are saying that it is because of the generation of young moms today, who are not really trained about disciplining their kids.

Anyway, if you are going to observe kids in school, they are sometimes different, too. Some of them are always silent at home, but active in school. There are also kids, who are not friendly enough because they keep on bullying other kids, but they are like angels when they are with their parents. Those are just a few behaviors that are true for many kids around the world.

As a father and mother of your kids, how do you talk to them? Do you talk to them nicely when they have done something wrong? Are you some kind of harsh to them? Do you embarrass them in front of other kids or people? Do you know how to appreciate them when they are on the good side? As a young mom, who nurtures the kids until they develop into an older kids, there are a lot of things that you must know. Pretty sure that you can find time to talk to your kids. But, do you know that there are words that we are not supposed to tell them? We have here a few words to share.

Good job

Pretty sure that your kids can do good things in their small ways. Of course, we would be very happy with your kids’ achievement. It could have been better, if you will focus talking about how your kid achieved something good, instead of saying “Good job.”

Let’s say that you find your child’s work of art pretty impressive. So, you may ask your child how he chose the colors. And then, you may also ask him how he learned how to draw. Aside from that, you may tell him that you like his masterpiece so much and that you would love to keep it.

Such words will make your child think that you are also looking at how he has done to accomplish something. Those words would only mean that you are not simply giving him a tap on his back. Instead, your words worth even more than just saying that a job was done well.

I Will Never forgive you and I’m ashamed of you

These are words that you should never say to your child because those words would leave a negative impact on their mind. The child will think that he has done something wrong that you will always remember until he grows up.

Do not ever let your child feel that he was not liked, loved or accepted after something bad has happened. It could have been better, if you will tell him that you feel sorry for what was done because it was wrong and that you will still love him.

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Things to expect when breast feeding the first time

When a woman becomes a mother, she will surely do everything for her baby, especially it is her first time to raise a child. When the baby feels hungry, of course, the mother needs to do the breast feed for the baby to be strong and grow healthy. Breast feeding is a normal routine that a mother needs to do. It is her obligation and responsibility to feed the baby with breast milk.

But, what if you will do this for the first time? Are you ready with this big responsibility? Are you even aware about what to do or how to breastfeed? If this is your first time to breastfeed, then you have a lot of things to learn and understand. Changes may also happen and there is a possibility that you may feel weird. But, if you have someone, who is older than you and had fed a baby with breast milk, then do not feel shy to ask. But, if you prefer asking for a professional, then you may go to the doctor.

On your baby’s first week

There are things that you need to know, especially during the very first week of your baby. You need to know exactly how often you need to nurse your baby. Frequent nursing is actually good for the baby. Try to feed him with breast milk at least 10 to 12 times a day.

You will know that the baby is hungry when he keeps on rooting as well as stirring and you can see his hands in his mouth. If possible, you should not wait until your baby starts crying. Breastfeed your baby and give him time to feed. After one breast, you may move him to the other one.

How will you know if your baby is feeding enough milk?

A baby gains weight when he started breast feeding. The average weight gained would be 170g or 6 oz. per week. Anyway, you need to bring your baby to the doctor at the end of his first week or beginning of his second week. You also need to consult a professional about your lactation, especially if the baby is not gaining weight.

Changing the diaper is necessary because during the first weeks, the baby will stool from time to time, especially after breast feeding. He must at least stool 3 to 4 times in a day. Expect the stool to be loose, curdy or seedy. Another thing, you may also expect your baby to get wet 5 or 6 times a day.

Changes in your Breast

Expect your breast to have an increased quantity during your second to fifth day. You may minimize engorgement by nursing often, not skipping breast feeding, ensuring a good latch and allowing the baby to finish breast feeding before giving him the other breast.

If you feel some discomforts due to engorgement, then you may use a cold compress in between feedings. You may always call your doctor if something different is happening, so even if it is your first time, do not ever panic.

 

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Tips for first time moms

To be a mother of your child is not really an easy job because it comes with a big responsibility. When you’re a mom, you should know what is best for your child. But, what if it is your first time? There are some moms out there, who do not even know what to do with their babies, especially if they are taking care of the baby alone. Let’s say that nobody is there to guide her.

We all became kids, but during that time, we do not really notice how our moms took care of us because all we know is playing, watching, sleeping and eating. We were very innocent that time that our focus and attention is not really on what our moms are doing for us.

Anyway, if it is your first time to be a mother, then you have to learn from your parents, guardians, adults or from experience. So, what do we really need to learn from them? We have here a few for you to consider.

What advice works for you?

If we are surrounded by adults, especially our parents or in-laws, pretty sure that they all have different advices. It is because they raised their own child in different ways. But, actually, they were all correct. It’s just that you need to choose the advice that you will follow. Make sure that you will pick the one that works for you and your baby.

There are those moms and adults, who are very much sensitive about germs. So, they do not really want the baby to touch anything. And then, they always make sure that you need to use hand sanitizers or antibacterial gel or alcohol before touching the baby. Pretty sure that adults will understand how you care for the baby. But, your baby will not really get sick with that. What you need to do is to keep your baby away from sick or ill people, so that they will not acquire sickness.

As a new mom, don’t expect that you can manage everything at home. Sometimes, you may not even clean up every mess because you are also taking care of the baby and you just want to keep an eye on him. But, that is not actually what you need to do. When the baby is sleeping, make sure that he is on a safe place or make sure that he will not fall. Use that time to clean the house. Why don’t you buy a device to install in the room and when you heard the baby crying, you can attend to him right away. If you do not want to leave him on the bed, then you have to buy baby stuffs, so that you can hang him on your body while sleeping.

You have to take note about the checkup of the baby. Pretty sure that you need to bring him to the doctor on a regular basis. Make sure that you have it on your calendar, so that you won’t miss the date, when he needs to see his doctor.